Being a Bridesmaid is not always a wanted task, here are some delicate ways to say no:
For a lot of the ladies out there, being asked to be a bridesmaid is a great honor. However, if you are among those who don’t actually want to be a bridesmaid for a friend’s wedding, you will want to find a way to say this politely. How to do it? Here are some tips to help you out:
Be honest, specific and straightforward. There’s really no better way to do this. Simply tell the bride that you cannot fulfill your role as a bridesmaid – and give her a clear reason why as well (because you are not in a good place with your finances, because you are very busy and cannot help her a lot, and so on). Make sure you are clear in your explanation because otherwise she may think that you have something personal against her or against her future marriage.
Furthermore, don’t forget to be specific about the fact that you are thrilled to hear she is getting married and that you do consider her invitation to be a great honor for you. Something along the lines of “I am very happy and honored you have chosen me as your bridesmaid; however, my finances/time don’t allow me to be the attendant you really need” is acceptable to say. Also, make sure you mention that you would be delighted to be a guest at her wedding.
Remember to always do this either in person or over the phone. Emails, texts and IM chats can be a bit too impersonal and they can leave a lot of room for interpretations (especially because the bride will not be able to see or hear you). Furthermore, remember not to accept anyone else’s invitation to be a bridesmaid in the same time span because this will definitely offend the bride!
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